Unforseen Circumstances or Going with the Flow
On Friday the 27th of September I went to an event called the Social Media Summit. It was organised by Mums in Business Association (MIBA); it was held in Leicester (about 40 minutes on the train from where I live). I got the ticket a couple of months prior to the event and was extremely excited about it. I just could not wait!
A few days before the Summit, I received an e-mail inviting me to the official book launch of MIBA Autobiography (by Estelle Keeber and Leona Burton, the co-founders). The launch was taking place on a Friday evening, a couple of hours after the Summit. I was just so excited! I have never been to a book launch (apart from my own). I got everything organised for the day. And I went off.
Unluckily, my daughter got sick a couple of days before the event. I thought she was getting better and decided to go, but asked mum to message me if Emily wasn't well.
To cut the long story short, my little girl did not seem to be getting better at all and was refusing to eat or play. I kept receiving updates on her wellbeing and just did not feel right to stay away from her any longer. I thought I could at least make it until the end of the Summit, but changed my mind.
I went home and sorted my little girl out. She was just fine when her dad and I brought her to the hospital, showing almost no signs of the illness. Do you find it fascinating how children just magically heal once they arrive to the A&E? Not always of course, but often enough.
I was reflecting on the situation afterwards and my feelings about it. I was kind of amazed that I felt no resentment or regret that I had to leave early and did not get to go to the book launch. I was just glad that I was able to be there with my daughter and make sure she was okay and put her to sleep.
I remember that before I had children, I would get annoyed or disappointed if I could not do something for whatever reason. I guess my reason for not being able to do something now is big enough to not get disappointed about.
When I wrote Resourceful Mum, I made it very clear to myself and my reader that our babies are always our priority. I know that I am in the process of building the life of my dreams, but I am doing it around my children. I think once I got that clear for myself, it became easier to let go of certain expectations or things that I could not do for whatever reason.
All it takes is one small step in the right direction every day or every couple of days to get you to where you want to go. Things will get in the way, especially when you are a busy mum, but that's the whole point of it. It would be boring if it always went smoothly. My top tip is to apply every little bit of information you learn and put it to practice right away. Only then you will start seeing results.