The Power of Positive Affirmations
Continuing with the theme of my previous blog about the importance of being kind to yourself, I have decided to elaborate on each of the three acts of kindness I shared with you previously. I will start with positive affirmations, how they work and how they can improve the quality of your life, because I have received a few messages asking me to say a little bit more on the topic.
What is a positive affirmation?
A positive affirmation is an empowering statement that you say to yourself about yourself or an area of your life, as if you already have what you want; even you do not believe it to be true yet. For example, if you feel anxious or afraid on a regular basis, start saying to yourself, ‘I am at peace with everyone around me. No person, place or thing has any power over me. I am the power and authority in my world’.
Why do that?
So much negativity is thrown at you millions of times every day. I bet you don`t even notice it anymore, or it has become a norm. It might have even become a way you relate to people in your life. What do you talk about? Is it bad news? Is it unemployment? Is it sickness or even death? Be honest with yourself. Have you been swamped with negativity and accepted it as an inevitable part of life? It is to some extent, but magnifying it does not help at all. Whether you know it or not, having negative thoughts and engaging in negative conversations regularly has a detrimental effect on your well-being and your quality of life. Positive affirmations serve as an antidote to all of those negative messages you receive or, in fact, give out. The more you practice working with positive affirmations, the better your experience of the world would become. Another reason for practicing positive affirmations is to neutralize your own negative self-talk. How many times a day do you call yourself a stupid cow or anything else of that sort? Would you speak to your friend or your child the way you speak to yourself? So stop it now. Replace these negative messages with things like, ‘I am worthy’, and ‘I am always learning’. With time, your view of yourself would transform. You would not only think differently, you would act differently. You will gain confidence you have not experienced before. Is it not worth a try just for that?
How to work with positive affirmations effectively
Thinking a positive thought about yourself will make you feel nicer. Working with positive affirmations is a specific way will transform your world completely. So, what do you do?
First of all, decide what area of your life you want to improve. It may be your career, your love life, you self-esteem, or your home. Then you find an affirmation that fits, or you make up your own. There are plenty of examples online. You can opt out for buying a book. I personally prefer books. Once you know what you are working on and have a suitable affirmation, it is time to begin working with it. Every day in the morning and in the evening (preferably), stand in front of the mirror, look into your eye, take a deep breath and say what you have to say to yourself out loud. Observe your feelings. Are you sad or happy? Are you tearful? Do you feel resentful or relieved? Whatever it is, do not judge it. Just let it be. With practice, it would become easier. It would become a norm. You will not even notice how your statements start coming to life. One day you will look at yourself and your life and be amazed at how much it has changed for the better. A simple act of working with positive affirmations daily can do miracles. Another important thing to do when working with positive affirmations is to write them down several times (the more the better). When you write things down, your brain starts reprogramming itself into thinking differently and it will create new scripts for you. Those new scripts, or scenarios, would then enable you to take different action. You will, therefore, get different results. Do you feel like it is too much? You have to find a positive statement that you say to yourself as if it is already true when you feel it is not, say it in front of the mirror AND write it down. It depends how much you want to improve your situation. If you are quite happy with where you are and how you relate to the world, then maybe it is too much for you. Maybe it would be enough for you to just think positive things throughout the day. If, however, you feel stuck and want something better for yourself, then you must do whatever it takes to get there. Remember, that the results you get will be proportionate to the amount of action you take. If the action you take is a little bit different from what you are currently doing, then the results would be a little bit better. If you are doing something entirely different from what you have been conditioned to do in the past, then the world is your oyster. Your achievements will blow your mind.
Give it a good go!
Before you decide to not do it, give it at least a half-hearted try. You never know, you might like it enough to continue.