• Marina Stepanova

The Choose Again Method

Following up from my yesterday`s post about #choice, I have decided to write a blog about the method that I learnt from a book called 'Super Attractor' by Gabrielle Bernstein. I love the method, because it is simple enough to grasp, easy enough to use and amazing for getting the result I want, which is feeling good.

Gabrielle says that 'the key to feeling good is to decide to stop feeling bad'. That`s it. There is no other way. If you are completely new to self-development, positive thinking, the law of attraction, and the gratitude attitude, then this might sound like the stupidest idea ever. But it`s not. It really is the only way. You ALWAYS have a choice about how you feel.

The Choose Again Method works the following way:

1) Notice the thought. For example, if you are having a fearful thought - feel it, recognise it, acknowledge it. Sit with it for a while, get to know it. It could be any other kind of thought - worry, sadness, or an anxiety-provoking though.

2) Forgive the thought. Do not berate yourself for feeling a certain way. Thoughts are neither good nor bad- they just are. Thank the thought for being there and for trying to keep you safe. Say out loud or silently, 'I forgive this thought, and I choose to believe in love instead'. Then celebrate your desire to shift back to feeling good.

3) Choose again

Answer the question, 'What is the best-feeling thought I can find right now?' Choose any thought that would make you feel better.

Use this process whenever you are feeling low and it will help you move up on the feelings scale. Each time you do it, it would become easier to pick yourself up from the emotional dumpster.

This method is not aimed to ignore your feelings or shove them to the back of your mind. To the contrary, it helps you become aware of how you are feeling, to name and acknowledge it and then do something about it.

It reminds me of a 3 A map; Awareness, Acknowledgement, and Acceptance that I use with my clients in my #counselling practice. I will write a blog about it later on and you will see how it is built on the same principle.


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